Em’s Top Ten Tips For Godly Wifing…

Happy Tuesday all!

I hope and pray your day is going well. It’s a great day here in North Texas. Yep – a “cold front” blew through and it’s a) raining and b) not 100 degrees. BONUS!

I am going to attempt to participate in the List It Tuesday Link up, that two of my favorite bloggers host. One is Kris @Weird Unsocialized Homeschoolers and one is Angie @RealLifeAtHome.  And – I’ve linked up with Wedded Wednesday! That’s a fun link up. Check it out.

After the recent IHM Conference I attended, I am no longer using SAHM as an acronym. I give you the acronym WAHMWoP (work at home mom, without pay). HAHAHA  Aside from the wiping of people, places and things… aside from cooking, cleaning, bill paying, teaching, doctoring, etc… that moms do all day every day – we have this person called a husband and that relationship needs work too.

As you know, I have been following and posting about Elizabeth’s Marriage Monday Series about being a better wife. You know, my Grandma Helen always said we can only control ourselves. So – regardless of what others do, we have to be responsible for us. And as a wife/mom this holds so true.

Before I get to my list, you all know that NO ONE is perfect. I do not meet my own requirements some days, much less God’s. But there is Examination of Conscience and Forgiveness. Yes?! We are so blessed.   So do the best you can, to be the best wife you can.

My Top Ten Tips For Godly Wifing (so hard to make a top ten) are:

10. Integrity.  The definition of Integrity is two-fold.

1) The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; and, 2) The state of being whole and undivided.

You can see, right off the bat, why this is so important in a wife (spouse).  If you are dishonest with your spouse, you will do severe damage to your marriage. Further, we must be a whole, united front, when handling certain issues of parenting and just BEING married.

9.  Listen and Communicate Effectively. Sigh. Perhaps one of the hardest things to do is listen and not answer too quickly the wrong way.  We must remember men process things differently. Where we may think we are just talking, they think “I’m the man, leading the family and she is not being respectful”. You know?  I run into trouble with Marque’s line of work. I may as well be an anti-Engineer. It’s just not my thing. But I’ve learned to listen without making up rhymes about engineering acronyms and breaking out in a giggle because I have no clue. He appreciates my efforts. Truly!

8. Be Frugal and Wise with Money.  Bottom line, if you are a WAHMWoP, then he is the only one working outside the home. If you pay the bills and keep accounts, you need to make sure you are sticking to the agreed upon budget and being honest about what you are purchasing. Praying together about a hospital bill is a good thing. Praying together because you bought a $500 purse and can’t afford groceries won’t go well. You know? Yes, I know – you wouldn’t. But one time, I charged some much needed clothes on a card that was paid down. I didn’t tell Marque. So when I was reporting finances I slipped it in. Sigh. Not the way to go about it. Marque is very generous with me. I don’t have to lie… and I didn’t mean to.. Sigh. Imperfect me.

7. Cook Great Meals. If you are not a good cook, become one. Men love a wife who can cook. Learn to cook his favorites. I learned to cook with the Good Housekeeping Illustrated Cookbook, 1980. Step by step. Includes how to set a table, plan a brunch, what herbs are used for, etc. Honestly I’ve used it for 34 years and just bought one off eBay. Here’s a picture:

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Further, find Internet Sites like Life As Mom’s site Good Cheap Eats.  Learn to organize your pantry, fill your freezer, can your own sauce/jelly, etc.  I tend to gravitate to people I understand and respect. Jessica is that. She’s clear, no-nonsense and loves what she does. I love recipe sites, but if I want logic and recipes and finance advice – she’s my go-to.

6. Care For His Children.  DUH. Right? I know – but it has to be said. Caring for children is, in addition to feeding and cleaning,  is about teaching them manners and helping them grow into Godly men/women. It will quickly show if you are not doing this.

5. Keep a Clean Home.  I keep a very clean home. I always did. I was “born organized” and some people aren’t. For you all, we have Chore Charts. Mine is here Davis Family Cleaning Schedule.  And no – it doesn’t always happen that way. But no one really notices because my house is clean. Christopher has plenty of chores and always has. We don’t pay him. Everyone does their part here at the Davis Household. Mostly, on a busy day, I take a few moments to run the vacuum, sweep the floors and wipe things down. I light a candle or two and create at least an appealing space for my husband to walk into. Again – I want him to want to be here.

4. Be Joyful/Content.  I’m assuming your husband works hard like mine. And even if he doesn’t who wants to be around someone that is mopey and un-joyful? not me! I really try to wait to talk to Marque about things until I can get my voice cheerful. When I am upset, I’m my worst self – snarky, ugly, whiney. NO BUENO! We (I)  have to show our (my) husbands we are thankful for what they do for our family. I can not compare my life to others. I no longer care to. It creates sadness and a bad case of the “well I want what she has…” and p.s. that is breaking a commandment. Who wants to do that? We teach our children to be happy with what they have. We teach them to smile and have fun even if they don’t want to be there. I submit, we need to listen to ourselves.

3. Be Respectful. Let him Lead.  This was so hard for me when I married. I was older (34). I had never lived with a man. I did things “my way”.  And that is not what a Godly wife does.  In some ways, I laugh now, because I’m so not the independent person I was. I need my husband in every decision. I need him to lead our family and I empower him to do that. I don’t tear him down. AND I don’t let my child do it either.  I ask his permission for things. He usually gives it…. but it is important for US that he lead in that way.

When we first married, Marque was a “well, I will go to church if you want to” guy.  But once I convinced him the Catholic Church (it took ten years) was where we needed to be… Our Lord changed this man. He leads family Rosary. He reads to us nightly. He makes sure we are at Mass on Sundays. This man…. He’s every bit of the family leader God always wanted him to leard. He’s imperfect  (like I am). But he’s respected and empowered to lead. AMEN!

2.  Show Him Love.  Ahem. Not just THAT!!! Ha. Slow dance in your living room. Do sweet little things.  Send a note in his lunch box. Let him watch HIS show. Smile at him. Hug him. Give him space. Whatever it is – show him you love him.

1. Be in Prayer.   Prayer is my sanity!  Without God, our Father, we are not the wives we should be. Our marriages and lives would suffer greatly if we stepped away from prayer.  I pray for my husband and family constantly. It’s what God calls us to do. We are the heart of the home – through our Lord. In order for that heart to be healthy, we must be in constant communication with Him!

So what do you think?  Did I leave anything out? I hope not. But let me know..

Love, Hugs & Blessings All!

Em

Monday’s Meanderings…

Em’s Daybook – Vol. 20

“Whenever anything disagreeable or displeasing happens to you, remember Christ crucified and be silent.”
— St. John of the Cross

Happy Monday All.

Today is going to be a great day? You know why? It’s SUMMER! Ok – sure, for you it’s been Summer for months, and we’ve not been doing daily school the past week or so. Today I will put the packet together and tomorrow or Wednesday I will mail out the package for 4Q! We could not be happier.  So for the next few weeks – no school news.

The veiling posts are postponed till the Fall. There are a few people who have written posts. We have some great things in store. <3  But….

Let me hop right into my post for today.

Today I am Linking Up With…

 Listening to… 

  • The doves cooing outside.
  • Pandora Radio

Watching…

I love to watch uplifting and fun TV.  Here are a few of my favs.

  • Re-Runs of Mother Angelica Live on EWTN
  • Fixer Upper – HGTV (um, they’re Texan and renovating in Texas).
  • So You Think You Can Dance
  • Diners, Drive Ins & Dives

 A Little Schooling News…

We are taking this week off. Actually we are not starting next year till either August 25th or September 8th. We’ll see how it goes. Next week, Christopher is going to be memorizing the times tables. AND he wants to learn how to type. So I gave up my regular Apple keyboard and got the longer one with a number pad. There is a typing program with this computer… so – we will see how that goes.  We will do a little Summer reading too.

A Little Wifing News….

You know I love Ms. Elizabeth’s posts on being a great wife… I’m going to talk about the Submissive Wife (there is a guest poster today).  Sigh… Do you submit to your husband? I do. People think it is odd. But I don’t think they understand how happy your marriage is if you follow God’s true teachings on the matter.  Here is an excerpt from today’s post.

As I was praying for them, I contemplated how many couples I have seen suffer through divorce. God directed me to meditate on the following verse: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” – Ephesians 5:22-24
Are we really living each day according to this scripture?  I know we have heard it many times — “submission” — that sometimes dreaded word.  Some of us first began to truly understand that word when we were saved by the grace of Christ.

It is important to understand this commandment in our homes – first submitting to Christ, then to our husbands. When we submit to Christ and study his word daily, his Spirit will begin to teach us how to honor our husbands. I believe this is one of the most important things you can do to strengthen your marriage.

I’m not saying not to discuss things with your husband. I’m not saying that we don’t all have a role in leading our families. But at the top/head of our family structure is a strong man. And I could not be happier about it.

Sure – you have your days, don’t you ladies – you look across the living room, and the aged and tired man is snoring in the recliner and you can think of a million other things he “should” be doing. You may even say to yourself, “some leader”. That’s the devil. The devil wants Godly marriage to fail. Look at all the attacks in society on marriage. Sigh. Praying for you all!

Reading….

  • Nothing new… though I need to. lol
  • Lesson Plans for Next year

A Little Kitchen News…

Meet my Sous Chef:

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Yep – Christopher is learning more about cooking this Summer. Currently, he’s got the emulsifier in the spaghetti sauce we were making. There is another pan next to him, where meatballs are browning. He loves to cook. We are so blessed.

  • Made the best strawberry preserves we’ve ever made last week. I have to say WE because I have so much help now.
  • Decided to freeze the potatoes.
  • This week’s menu:
    • Today – Roasted Chicken
    • Tuesday – Tacos
    • Wednesday – Leftovers
    • Thursday -
    • Friday – Fish
    • Saturday – Friends over for burgers and such.

Thinking About…

Our crazy world.  The way our country pics and chooses what to get involved in. How we give some groups refugee status, and don’t even consider others. The way some people pick and chose their truths. It’s all deeply sad for me.  If you want to know a little more about truths and numbers of people that have immigrated or gotten refugee status, you should look it up. Here are a couple links:

First of all, ICE did not solicit bids for vendors to bring children across the border, as Infowars claimed on its website. The request for information was referring to children who illegally crossed the border and were apprehended by Border Patrol agents. The private escorts would transfer “approximately 65,000″ unaccompanied foreign children from Border Patrol facilities to Department of Health and Human Services’ Office of Refugee Resettlement shelters.

HHS is required by law to take custody and provide care for unaccompanied foreign children who illegally enter the United States from countries that do not border the United States. The law — known as the William Wilberforce Trafficking Victims Protection Reauthorization Act of 2008 — allows for the expedited deportation of most child migrants from Mexico and Canada when they are apprehended at the border. But there is a complex resettlement process for other children.

These children — who are mostly from Guatemala, El Salvador, and Honduras — are first held at Border Patrol facilities for a maximum of 72 hours for screening. After that, the DHS must hand them over to the Office of Refugee Resettlement (ORR) for placement under itsUnaccompanied Alien Children (UAC) programOptions may include foster care, living with a relative in the United States (if available), or deportation back to the child’s home country.

People are spreading so much false info about the situation down there. And some, because of their hatred of our President (and no, I am not a fan of his) – are just too happy to latch onto the negative untruths. Well, I say – get informed.

Thankful For…

  • The hope of rain this week.
  • Lower than normal temps.
  • My husband and child
  • Good Books
  • Weight Watchers Meeting – leader and people there.

Praying For….

  • My cousin’s husband – he has cancer throughout his body.
  • Everyone with Cancer, frankly.
  • My friends with chronic illness.
  • Persecuted Christians.
  • Children without parents.
  • The Mentally Ill.
  • People who have no jobs, no homes, no hope.
  • The unborn.
  • Integrity of Marriage.
  • Our Church & Faith.
  • My family – our health and finances.

Captured…

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Christopher is catching a water balloon on the last day of VBS!

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Remember these? Mothers Iced Animal Cookies.  I brought them for snack @ VBS and accidentally had a few. <3

I hope this post finds you doing well. If I can pray for you, please call on me.

Have a great week all!

Blessings & Hugs,

Em

BUSY BUSY –

Hi all,

I’m kinda on a break. 

I’m busy with a ton of things and blogging has been hard to fit in.

Once I get past VBS this week, I should be good.

Until then, please know I’m praying for you.

And can I just say that the teens @ St. Patricks in Fort Worth ROCK! The put together the entire VBS program. So impressive and encouraging for teens to love Our Lord so.

God Bless you all,

Em

7QTF — On the Importance of Homeschool Conferences

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7QTF  – 2014 Vol.  5

JULY 18, 2014
“Jesus deigned to teach me this mystery. He set before me the book of nature; I understood how all the flowers He has created are beautiful, how the splendor of the rose and the whiteness of the lily do not take away from the perfume of the little violet or the delightful simplicity of the daisy. I understood that if all flowers wanted to be roses, nature would lose her springtime beauty, and the fields would no longer be decked out with little wild flowers. And so it is in the world of souls, Jesus’ garden. He willed to create great souls comparable to lilies and roses, but He has created smaller ones and these must be content to be daisies or violets destined to give joy to God’s glances when He looks down at his feet. Perfection consists in doing His will, in being what He wills us to be.”
— St. Therese of Lisieux – The Little Flower

Happy Friday Evening.

My guys are at a ballgame. I’m finally sitting at the blog. Sigh…. if you are a Catholic homeschool mom, grab your glass of wine… or coffee…. or whatever… grab something and sit down – let me tell you why you should leave your spouse and children behind and go hang out at a Homeschool Conference without them.

By the end of the school year, YES even with one child — thank you Jilly for validating me with that one child thing — you are OVER IT.  And by OVER IT,  I mean, you have said at least one time, out loud, to your spouse (aka the Principal) and your child(ren) ,”I can not do this anymore… he/she/they/YOU might have to go back to public school…. I’d rather go back to work!”  Ok – so maybe you didn’t, but I did!  Oh sure, you know you are homeschooling next year, but you are ready for a break. Ok – maybe you aren’t but I am!

So I submit to you that there are WAY more than seven reasons to go to a homeschool conference (without your spouse and children if you can).  Last weekend, I went to the IHM North Texas Conference. IHM Stands for Immaculate Heart of Mary, for those of you who don’t know… and it ROCKS!

#1 – Meeting New Friends… I got to meet a few people that I haven’t met. Michelle Quigley, the creator of the Catholic Daily Planner;  Megan Kimbrell, one of the ladies in the Veiling Group and a fellow Military Wife; and, Colleen Hammond, Author of Dressing with Dignity and fellow Texan.  It was just so cool, after corresponding and interacting on FaceBook to finally meet them. Such a treat.

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Myself & Colleen Hammond.

#2 – Seeing Friends You Don’t Get To See Much…. It was so nice to see friends from the Catholic Homeschool Groups I belong too. Especially the ones that live far.  It was great to catch up with them. A few of us went to an early dinner (my lunch) Friday night and a few of the same plus some others went to lunch on Saturday. We just hung out. You know? No kiddos, no fuss – just us.

Probably my favorite thing was giving away a black eternity veil to my friend who has been discerning veiling for Our Lord. What a blessing. She sent me a note a few days later, and said her family loved it and she felt so good in it. Praise for humbling me with this devotion and friends who let me be giving, in His Name.

#3 – Seeing Your Favorite Curriculum….. This is not usually as important for me in ALL regards. Why? Because we enroll in Seton Home Study. I don’t pick and choose which “this and that” curriculum to use. My brain does not work that way. In fact, it hurts my head to think about doing it that way. However, this year, in 5th, I wanted to look at a certain science set. Seeing the books/journal/lab helped me make up my mind. Anywhooo… I did buy a new Bible and a few books, prayer cards, and I picked up my journal from Michelle. LOVE IT!

And can I just say, I was really impressed by the Catholic Colleges/Online High Schools that were there. Great to know.

#4 – Supporting Catholic Businesses. I know – some of you cringe. Well – cringe on. I like supporting small Catholic Businesses. One of the Book Stores, Stella Maris, is local and I go there (40 mins from my home), so I was thrilled to see her.  I bought a Bible and some medals and Prayer Cards from her. I promised to visit soon. Love. These little relationships are so important.

Plus – I love looking out and seeing all the BOOKS about Saints and our Faith and the veils/trinkets and other things. SO AWESOME!  AND Yes, there were non-Catholic curriculums there. But, they are at the very least Christian, which is important – so very important.

#5 – Connected With Speakers…  For two days, I listened to Homeschool Moms and Apologists and Priests speak on our Faith and how important a vocation being a mom, wife, and homeschool teacher are.  We laughed, we cried, we prayed and we walked way REFRESHED!

We are not alone sisters. There is a whole ARMY of people who homeschool. Moms and Dads who feel the same as we do… tired, overwhelmed, wondering what mistakes we are making…. we all feel that way. The beauty of being around the multitudes of other parents and even the children who come…. is that we get this validation…. our heads go up, our shoulders square and WE CAN DO IT!

I loved all the speakers, I really did. But, from a personal place, Mrs. Amy Kalscheur’s words hit home. She homeschools eight children and went through cancer, complete with chemo and sickness (now in remission). She told her story about how the homeschool community gathered around. She said, out loud, how hard and scary it was. She gave up her pride and let people help her – and she told us about it.  We were all in tears. I was sitting with two friends, who are chronically sick, and it was so humbling.

She told us we are WORK AT HOME moms. I’ll never use SAHM again. She’s right – I don’t sit and eat bon bons. Do you?

Patrick Madrid told us how to stand up for our Faith and the importance of it. They all gave us tools to use in our day to day.

Colleen was the last speaker I heard. My take away from her (and really all the speakers combined) –

Homeschool Community = LOVE & CHARITY!  We are blessed and strong! We are working for Christ, and modeling our lives after the Holy Family. Unlike them, we are imperfect, but we bask in Christ’s Glow. Sigh…

#6 – Stayed the Night ALONE. One bed, one TV, one remote and people to wait on YOU.. SERIOUSLY. I ordered room service (nothing heavy) and munched while I read in my nightgown. Sure, my guys Face-Timed me. But they were having a 007 Marathon Movie Night. Ok – ok I admit I didn’t fall asleep till after 1pm. I rarely have been away from my son all night in the almost 11 years he’s been alive, so it was a little stressful. It just is not “our thing”. So it was a nice treat for Marque to be home AND for me to be able to do it. He insisted. He arranged it with his points that we are saving for vacation. And I am so eternally glad he did.

Let me clarify here. I ate without anyone saying “I’m hungry, can I have some of yours.” I read, without anyone wanting to watch TV in the room. I went to the restroom without anyone knocking and saying, “MOM” (with dad right there beside them).  I got up and someone brought me breakfast and coffee in a pot…

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The coffee is in a cup & saucer ya’ll. I need to do that more at home, but I digress!  I highly recommend it!

#7 – I’m Rejuvinated. I’m Validated. I’m sure I’m doing the right thing and I’m Ready to Plan Next Year.  Don’t we all need that from time to time? We just need to take a step back and get clarity and gain strength from others… and look at things a different way. So – I’ve got the books all organized (with the exception of the new stuff coming). My classroom is organized.  Fourth Quarter packet will be sent on Monday/Tuesday and we will be ON A BREAK!

We are going to hang out for six weeks and we’ll either start August 25th or September 2nd. I haven’t made up my mind yet.

I’m linking up today with Jen @ Conversion Diary for 7QTF!

And that is a wrap!

Blessings all!

Em

Monday’s Meanderings…

Em’s Daybook – Vol. 19

“You must speak to Jesus, not only with your lips, but also with your heart; actually, on certain occasions, you should speak with only your heart.”
— Saint Padre Pio of PietrelcinaHappy Daybook Monday to you!

Happy DayBook Monday! Happy Saint day to St. Kateri Tekakwitha. May we all live our lives willing to be persecuted for Our Lord. You really should read her story! WOW!

Here in Fort Worth we are doing a little happy dance as there is a storm coming through…. a COLD FRONT …. that promises to drop our temps into the 80’s! AND most importantly it’s supposed to bring rain. Please God – let it rain. Let it rain for weeks. Our lakes are 20 feet down in some places. Our gardens and yards are suffering. Our foundations (speaking of homes) are suffering too.

I have to be honest, I took a month off of daybooks and such. I mean – honestly I just needed a break. In some ways I still do.  But I’m going to forge ahead. Things change in the blog world – my favorite Monday link-up seems to have gone by the wayside. And I am thinking of creating my own – but then, I have so much to do and there are other great ones out there. And I came back to find one of my favorite DayBook link ups is defunct. That is a bummer. I am going to find a few more to do…. I think it will help me get motivated again to write.

Anywhooo…yes, I know it’s Tuesday. Yep – I started the post yesterday, and got a call from the hubs who needed a few things done. Then there is the little man and household things. Weight Watchers Meeting… and it just never got done.  But it’s ok… life happens right?

I’ll give a nod to St. Bonaventure – who really is Tuesday’s Saint of the day…. and off we go…

Today I am Linking Up With…

 Listening to… 

  • The news
  • The washing machine
  • Dog barking in the distance.

 A Little Schooling News…

Third Quarter is done. Yep – book report done, packet on the way to be graded. High fives all around. I went to the IHM Conference this past weekend. It was awesome (more about that on Friday in the 7QT post). I will say this though – I am refreshed and feel uplifted and I’m so thankful for these little conferences.

We just lack a book report and history paper for 4Q to be done. WHOOP WHOOP. We are slow moving with it.

I’ve received all the books – though I am switching out science. Christopher will take two 6th grade courses next year – Math & Science (shocking right – HA).  I am even buying the lab stuff for science so we can do experiments. I am bad about not doing the FUN STUFF enough.

A Little Wifing News….

You know I love Ms. Elizabeth’s posts on being a great wife… I’m going to talk about the Homeworking Wife and the Homeworking Wife Part 2.

In part one – the quote that stuck out was this -

Respected women’s author and speaker, Martha Peace, has this to say in her book, The Excellent Wife:

The biblical concept of a “worker at home” is not a popular one today, but I do believe that God intended for the women, especially the younger women, to stay home and do a good job of caring for their homes and for their families. A wife who is gone with too many activities or work does not have the time or energy to keep her home as it should be kept.

Everyone’s situation is different. But I know that I am a different wife and mother than I was when I worked 10+ hours/day.  I learned that during a stent in 2008/2009 when I went back to work for 5 months. I’d been an in-home mom since middle 2005, and I wanted to contribute… After all, I have two degrees and we needed the money to pay down debt… I was temping and sometimes left at 6:30 and didn’t get home till 8pm or so. The money was great. What it did to my family – not so much. I didn’t even get to tuck my child in. It just was not for us.

The bottom line is that God has given us our job description and defined our priorities in the Titus 2 passage quoted above — we are to love our husbands and be their help meets, we are to love our children and raise them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, and we are to be busy working at home, creating a home for our families, managing that home, guarding it from the evil that slithers in through the cracks, and making it a center of ministry.  Any other work we engage in is in addition to and lower in priority than these God-given mandates!

Moving to Part 2, and yesterday’s link up…  I was thinking about this – I don’t know any mom who Stays At Home with their children all day. I think SAHM should be abolished. Ladies we work. We run errands, we run our homes – cooking, cleaning, finances, shopping, etc. If you are a homeschool mom too, you also teach your children and do co-op, lesson plans, etc.   So please can we just agree that we are all Work At Home Moms (WAHM)?

Here is the definition that Elizabeth shares:

As we learned last week, the phrase “keepers at home,” is translated “workers at home” in some other versions of the Bible. In the Greek this phrase is one word, oikourgos, which comes from two root words: Oikos, which means “a dwelling, a home, or a household,” and ergon which means “to work or be employed.”  Thus, a homeworking wife.

We are home working wives for sure. Many also work from home. I am hoping that I will be watching a baby starting in January. I was only blessed with one child, and a couple at Church is having a baby and has asked me about it. That would be a great way to earn a little extra and help pay down the debt. It would teach my son how it feels to have a baby around and I think it would be good for us.

In this week’s post she also talks about home businesses and provides links on how to start a business. She is a Lilla Rose Consultant and I’m hoping to do a giveaway soon AND host an online party for her. I love my Lilla Rose Accessories. So fun.

My final thought on this – be the best, Godly wife and mother you can be. I believe that is in the home.  I believe is we stop being so greedy as Americans we would have more stable children because mothers would be home to raise them. Let’s pray that all who want to stay home can find a way.

Reading….

A Little Kitchen News…

  • I finally got a dehydrator – we are super excited. The leftover peppers and things that don’t freeze well can be dehydrated. Of course the hubs wants to make beef jerky.
  • We are preparing potatoes for canning. Maybe potato soup too.

Thinking About…

How blessed we are. My heart is fine. All tests show no damage or blockage. I go to the neurologist this week to talk about what is going on.  Just exploring.

Thankful For…

  • Rain
  • My husband and child
  • Good Books
  • Veiling Group and 33 Days of Morning Glory Group too
  • Weight Watchers Meeting – leader and people there.

Praying For….

  • My cousin’s husband – he has cancer throughout his body.
  • Everyone with Cancer, frankly.
  • My friends with chronic illness.
  • Israel  and many other parts of the world.
  • Children without parents.
  • The Mentally Ill.
  • People who have no jobs, no homes, no hope.
  • The unborn.
  • Integrity of Marriage.
  • Our Church & Faith.
  • My family – our health and finances.

Captured…

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 Daddy’s helper…

strawberry shortcake

 He also helped his mama with the strawberry short cake. It has blueberries too…and fresh whipped cream. He loves to help lately. YAY

I hope this post finds you doing well. If I can pray for you, please call on me.

Blessings & Hugs,

Em

Our Lady’s Image: Veiling – Do It For The Right Reasons….

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“All the things in this world are gifts of God, created for us, to be the means by which we can come to know him better, love him more surely,                             and serve him more faithfully. “
— St. Ignatius of Loyola

Happy Tuesday All. I haven’t blogged in almost three weeks. I’ve missed it, but we have been super busy.

Usually on Tuesday, a new lady tells her veiling story. But today, I have some thoughts I want to share.   I got this quote in my email this morning:

Fresh Opportunities 

God’s job, I think, is to keep lovingly disrupting our lives, and our job is to see if there are fresh opportunities for faith hidden within those disruptions. As a result, God keeps finding fresh ways to shake up our complacencies and challenge us to resist the seductive temptation to play the victim.

— from Startled By God

This resonated so much with me. I have hesitated for a while to post these particular thoughts. I hope and pray they are well received. Here they are…

Why Do You Wear a Veil or Head Covering?  

Real quick – I call it a veil because I don’t wear hats, headbands, tichels or whatever else in place of the veil. That’s not to say women can’t cover how they see fit, but I don’t wear the other things. So please, when you read this, know that by veiling, I mean head covering too and I don’t have to keep saying veiling/headcovering. You’ll just know I mean that. ok?

Back to my question – WHY do you veil?

I get that there is a discernment process to wearing a Veil. As I was coming fully into the Catholic Church, I started wearing  a veil to Mass. The Parish I went to, was not accepting of veiling, so I switched Parishes. In some ways, I wish I hadn’t because God calls us to be different and to stand out – and in some ways, I feel I let him down. BUT – once I made the decision to wear the Veil, I never faltered on it.  My husband and my son have embraced it fully. One time I was chatting before entering the Church and my husband said, “Em, Veil-up!” Ha. Love that man.

Veiling is not about what someone else thinks. Veiling is not about what color the veil is.  Veiling is not about the style of covering… Veiling is about a personal choice to cover in the presence of Our Lord. Veiling is a lifestyle choice. And once you make that choice, I can not imagine for the life of me why you would stop – IF you were doing it for the right reasons all along.  As Mother Angelica would say “that’s a cop-out”. HA! I love her.

I know women who never stopped veiling. They’ve veiled all their lives, even after the Church stopped making them. They did it and taught their daughters and grand-daughters this fantastic devotion.

More than that – There is a veiling revolution going on in the Catholic Church. How exciting is that? Our Lord is AGITATING us – he’s making us think. He’s making people question veiling and they are continuing to veil because they know it is for HIM they veil. Not for the social media public. Not for their friends or family or whomever.

A lady in the veiling group – Tatiana – said the other day:

My friend Mike said something really profound today… he has cerebral palsy, and is in a wheelchair. He always dresses to the nines (suit, tie, polished shoes) for mass though, because he can’t kneel or stand during the mass, and he said that dressing well is the one way he can outwardly show respect to God and especially to the Eucharist. This really resonates with me, because that’s the same reason that I veil- I’m also disabled (degenerative joint disease,) and can barely walk some days, much less kneel or stand for more than a minute or so at a time. I veil because it’s the greatest way I have to show respect to God in mass. Thankfully, though, as Mike said, the Lord reads the heart rather than the external. 

ETA- something he also said- “Offer Our Blessed Lord the DESIRE to stand or kneel or genuflect and it would probably be even more appreciated than if you could actually do it!”

Lily posted a blog post about it in a post titled Putting into Perspective Our Doubts and Worries About Veiling.  I tell you Lily is such a talented writer. The love she has for veiling is refreshing and beautiful.

One of my favorite lines from Tatiana’s post in the veiling group is this:

I veil because it’s the greatest way I have to show respect to God in Mass. Thankfully, though, as Mike said, the Lord reads the heart rather than the external.

I love all the lively discussions about veiling. It helps me realize this is NOT a passing fad. If it were, the devil himself would not be sneaking into people’s hearts and minds to make them say and do ugly things with regard to veiling.

You might say – well Lily owns a veil company, she has to talk it up. Karen too. Birgit too. Gail too… Robin too… and so on.  Well, I submit that these ladies LOVED the veiling devotion first and then started their businesses. Trust me, they are not doing it to get rich. They are giving, lovers of Christ and our Catholic Faith. They pray for one-another and all of us, and probably all of you!

There are many opinions on veiling out there. MANY blog posts about it. There have been for years, decades even. I think lately it’s become popular, for some – for the wrong reasons. Perhaps they think they should veil because their friends do. Perhaps they think they want to drive traffic to their blogs. Who knows what false reason the evil one put on their hearts to start and stop veiling. But I know this – if you veil for the right reasons, you won’t stop – no matter what ANYONE thinks or says that is negative. If the walk you walk is in God, you may stumble, but you won’t leave it.

If you are struggling with discernment, I urge you to come to our group. Fellowship with the ladies. Sure – there are some that are wackadoodles (probably myself included on some days) but we quickly squelch them and move on. Hey – we’re human. I just wanted to be honest about that. But mostly it’s a safe place for those discerning, for first-timers and for those who have done this forever. The range is broad and beautiful.

The Catholic Women’s Veiling Group is a strong group of women, growing daily. The call to veil has lead these women to:

  • be closer to Our Lord and His Mother.
  • dress more modestly.
  • really think about how they present themselves in public.
  • make veils for others.
  • lovingly guide their sisters in Christ.

And much more. Truly. I have seen women make veils or just give their own extras away to women who can’t afford it. I’ve seen the power of prayer heal others in this group.

Sure, it is true, we made the group Catholic. Not to discriminate, but to give our Catholic sisters a safe place where we don’t have to argue doctrine. You might be shocked to know that we don’t tell people they HAVE to wear a veil in our group. We don’t allow folks to tell others they are wrong for not wearing a veil. We don’t allow folks to tell others that their daughters can not serve, or that they have to kneel or receive the Eucharist on the tongue. If the Church allows it, we have to be loving about it or we end up sinning. We don’t want to debate WHY we veil with other religions. It’s truly that simple.

Let me restate the quote from above…

Fresh Opportunities 

God’s job, I think, is to keep lovingly disrupting our lives, and our job is to see if there are fresh opportunities for faith hidden within those disruptions. As a result, God keeps finding fresh ways to shake up our complacencies and challenge us to resist the seductive temptation to play the victim.

— fromStartled By God

Are you playing the victim in your life? I have been three from time to time. But as I get closer to our Lord, I realize it is the wrong way to live. We say “WHY LORD? WHY ME?” and He says “because I called you! AND you are to obey me!”

My bottom line – veil or don’t veil. But don’t be wishy washy about it.

Next week, we will continue the veiling stories. I hope and pray this post has touched you and helped you in some way, especially if you are struggling with this devotion.

Love, Hugs & Blessings,

Em

Small Success Thursday – How I’ve Missed You…

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“Know that the greatest service that man can offer to
God is to help convert souls.”
— St. Rose of Lima

Happy Thursday!

Happy Saint Day to St. Romauld. His whole life was dedicated to our Faith. His father was so moved, he became a monk. Amazing.

Today is the #March4Marriage in DC. Christians of many faiths are marching on DC to support Marriage between one man and one woman. Not one man and five women. Not two women or two men.  As Pope Francis said,

“The image of God is the married couple: the man and the woman; not only the man, not only the woman, but both of them together,” said the Pope. “God’s covenant with us is represented in that covenant between man and woman. And this is very beautiful.”

Many of us can not be at the March, but we can perhaps go to the website and buy a mug or a tee shirt or something.. March For Marriage! Check it out!

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Please join all the ladies at Small Success Thursday and share yours! We all have things that are small successes in our week. Sometimes we have to look harder to find them, but they are there.

I feel like I should say “Hi, my name is Emily and it’s been a couple months since I posted for SST”. lol I love Small Success Thursday over at CatholicMom.com LOVE IT!

My biggest successes this week have been in the form of SILENT success. My patience and my learning not to say things to my child. My understanding of the reality in which I live and just trying to be at peace with it. Those are kinda boring to a reader and hard to understand.  So I’ll share a couple others.

A Couple weeks ago I Averted a National Crisis and made jam. Strawberry, Blueberry, Peach, Mixed Fruit and Honey-Lemon. I was supposed to get all the jars sent out this week, but it looks like it will be next week when we get back from a mini-trip. So – I will share that small success then.<3

My child “gets it” and knows we aren’t made of money. He helped me write up and sell his Wii U so that he could afford his new Xbox One. He is even tracking how much we’ve made on Amazon.com minus their fees. I love that.

He also is showing signs that he “gets” modesty, our faith and many other things that one thinks “I wonder if they get what I’m teaching them” about. So proud of that boy.

And speaking of that child. I’ve got to go wake him so we can get MATH done for the 4th quarter. At this point we are finishing a class at a time. And no – we’ve not finished the book report for third quarter or fourth. #baneofmyexistence

Have a great day All.

Blessings,

Emily

Our Lady’s Image: Veiling – Shawn’s Story

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 The Sustaining Force 
Forgiveness is a practice worth pursuing with all one’s strength, as it may be the single most sustaining force in any relationship, as well as being indispensable to one’s own emotional well-being. 
— from Fighting Mad

Happy Tuesday All!

It’s a beautiful day in North Texas. I hope and pray wherever you are – you are enjoying your morning. I’ve got my cup of coffee. My husband made a light breakfast, and soon we are off to my cardiology appt. But wanted to get this post up before I go.

The Saint of the day is St. Joseph Cafasso. Just to give you a point of reference with him, St. John Bosco was one of his pupils. Neat huh?

Today, in our veiling series, we have an author who wears and makes Tichels. They remind me of Rhoda Morgenstern (from the Mary Tyler Moore Show).  Here’s a picture of Rhoda:

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I know, this is a veiling series. But in truth, it’s about covering our heads in reverence to the Lord. Did you know there are many kinds of head coverings? Did you know that MANY Catholic women cover full time?  I did not know this either. I learn more about this devotion daily.

I think you will enjoy her post. I pray so.  Without further ado, here’s Shawn’s post in our Veiling (Headcovering) series.

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Veiling, to me, is like wearing a prayer shawl, using a prayer matt, wearing a habit, a wedding veil, a yarmulke. I do it because this is something that helps me enter more consciously into the presence of God. I feel I am honoring the fact that I am stepping into the house of God among His people He has called to His table. My veil to me is a prayer in itself.  It connects me to the traditions and history of the Church that is so beautiful to me. It is a time -honored expression of Catholic feminine spirituality and the Bride Mysticism of so many of my favorite Saints. It is a sign of consecration and worship, the old carried into the new, bringing the present alive. Putting on my veil as I step into the church intensifies my awareness of the awesome.  I just wish it was not so noticeable and that I could find a way to be more sneaky about it.

That’s from the article I wrote about veiling at Austin Catholic New Media —       A Veiled Question: An Exploration of the Re-Emergence of an Ancient Custom During my research for this article I ran across a blog about Jewish hair covering called Wrapunzel, by Andrea Grinberg.

I did not know that Jewish women cover their hair once they are married. She said that to her, her tichel (Jewish head scarf) is like her crown as a Jewish woman, and like her wedding ring.

10468249_10204311787619278_1150485054_o-2I started thinking about the fact that both of my stints with veiling have been when I was widowed. I have been recently widowed for the second time and I felt there was a message for me in this veiling of Jewish married women. The Lord is husband of the widow and father to the fatherless. My feeling that I should veil for Jesus was Him saying that He is my spouse now and He would like me to veil for Him. Needless to say this is very meaningful to me right now.

I got very into tichels as a hobby. It’s funny how they make me want to live again. I have not been interested in anything much, especially anything to do with clothes or appearance since my beloved second husband died 21 months ago. And now I’m watching tutorials and playing with scarves in my room and inspired to write and to live out my life as a consecrated widow, as Mary did. Mary, Exalted Widow, pray for us.

What a gift of characteristic simplicity the Lord has given me: a way to honor Him, a way to understand this new life, something fun to do, a way to be interested in the world again, all in this one devotion of veiling.

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If you have any questions, please leave a comment.

Blessings,

Shawn

 BIO: Shawn is a mother, a widow twice over, a private care giver/aide. a Catholic columnist for the local paper here, The Bryan College Station Eagle, and a blogger for Austin Catholic New Media. I am a Secular Discalced Carmelite with the Austin OCDS Community of Teresa Benedicta of the Cross. I run around barefoot and cover my head. What’s up with that? My household includes dogs, cats, chickens, and a mopey teenager that I love.

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Em’s DayBook – Vol. 18

“Each of you knows that the foundation of our faith is charity. Without it, our religion would crumble. We will never be truly Catholic unless we conform our entire lives to the two commandments that are the essence of the Catholic faith: to love the Lord, our God, with all our strength, and to
love our neighbor as ourselves.”
— Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati

Happy Monday to ya. Today’s Saint of the Day is St. John Francis Regis. Like so many other saints, he was born into wealth and gave it all up for God.  May we learn to be more like Saints.

As you know, if you have read my blog for any length of time, Monday is Laundry day! Yip to the EEE.  But before I scale Mt. Washmore, I thought I’d share my daybook.

The Summer is upon us in Texas. Oh sure, we have some wrapping up to do still in school. We are taking our time – it’s the beauty of homeschool. 

I would be remiss if I didn’t ask for prayers for all affected by the heinous crime in Arizona this past week. Please pray for Father Terra and the soul of Father Walker – these are the two Priests attacked this past week. Father Terra lived through the ordeal but will remain in the hospital. Father Walker was shot and killed. Here is an article  – Priests Attacked in AZ. There are many websites carrying it… all kinds of commentary. But in the end, we should pray for them and even for the lost soul who would do this.  Many of my friends in North Texas knew Father Terra. God bless him. Praying for you all!

Today I’m Linking Up With…

  • Jenna, Mary & Anna Cate @ A Mama Collective for Currently
  • Jenny @ The Littlest Way for DayBook

Like you, it makes me sad when one or another of them takes the day off, but we get it – right? I am just happy there are lots of link-ups to choose from.

Listening to…

SILENCE! Well,  normal house and wind noises, an occasional car. But Christopher is still sleeping and Marque is long since gone to work! Sitting here, alone, in my night shirt… reading & typing. Listening to birds chirp outside my window. <3 In the distance I can hear a yard crew or light construction…

A Little School News…

Nothing new to report. Got all our stuff for next year. Finishing up this year.

A Little Homing News…

As you know our new furniture comes this week. The couch on Wednesday and the chair on Saturday. What a crazy month or two. Like I said last week – if you come over in the next several months you will see that our new furniture currently clashes with our walls — BUT we have a plan.

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There are so many big and little things we need to do in this house in order to sell. Sigh. It may be that we have to rent it in order to move out. Regardless – we will need to make the current colors neutral (you can see the gold in the bottom left pic).

A Little Wifing News…

Father’s Day Weekend was awesome. Baseball game Saturday. Yesterday Marque and Christopher went to the pool. I stayed home and made Marque’s favorite deep dish brownies and made a nice dinner… Lobster Ravioli, Salad and then Brownies/ice cream for desert. <3

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Oh – and he got a new golf shirt and sports things (he’s flying to Jersey to play golf this week). AND he got his recliner for our bedroom.

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I know – it doesn’t match. Sigh. He’s not big on matching. He likes comfort. Sigh… lol What can I do? p.s. my friend Lori made that quilt – we love it.

Let me be clear – he deserves more than I could ever give him. He’s the best husband and dad! We are so grateful. It’s nice to be able to do something nice for him. Some years we can’t and that’s ok too.

Reading…

Several things… Nothing regularly beyond my Magnificat. Sigh. I am a time-waster.

In My Kitchen….

It’s hot outside, so we switch to even simpler meals for the Summer. Lots of cold stuff – salads, pasta salads, fruits, cereal, sandwiches… leftovers that we can heat in the microwave.  We still have a hot meal most days… but we just try to be smart about it!  I just wrote a contributing article for Frugal Homeschool Family. Be looking for it soon. Lots of tips for keeping electric bill down – including tips on cooking in the Summer.

Thinking About…

  • Parenting. I sometimes overthink what I do right and wrong. I’m hard on myself. <3
  • Homeschooling. Love Seton. It’s a lot of work. Love it.
  • What we my student will learn this Summer!
  • Private school for the boy. I think that he needs more socialization than I can give him. I’m worried about that. Not overly worried. He has Aspergers. I don’t know. Back and forth – is how my mind works.
  • Going back to work. I may watch a baby starting in January.
  • Where we can go in the Summer. We know we are going to San Antonio in September. I have a Catholic Women’s conference. And we will likely then drive to Houston and spend a few days there and in Galveston/Corpus.
  • How hot it is here and how much we like to avoid the heat. My poor child got burnt yesterday even with sunscreen on. Sigh.
  • How we can afford a pool of some sort (you know how I feel about our hood pool). Marque is finally on board with this. Pray for us. This would be so good for our health. Plus, it could be up till October here. It’s hot enough.

Parenting is tough. It’s hard to constantly be confident in everything. Sometimes we start down a path, learn different and make a slight change. Life is a path – it’s not always straight! Sigh – MUST REMEMBER THAT!

Internet Find…

Workout Labs – Free Printable Workouts and Simple Exercise Programs.

Thankful For…

  • All the strong men and fathers in the world. My husband and father most of all.
  • Rain. We got some rain last week and are expecting more. Keep it coming!
  • Slower pace of Summer.
  • All the usuals – friends, family, my faith… so many important things to be thankful for.

Praying For…

  • Our Faith and All Clergy. Especially for Father Walker’s family and for Father Terra and the parishioners who knew these two great Priests.
  • Our Pope.
  • The doctors I will see over the next few weeks/months.
  • My health and that of my family.
  • Finances.
  • Mentally Ill – that they may find peace.

Have a great rest of your week.

Love, Hugs & Blessings,

Em

 

Our Lady’s Image – From Veiling to Helping Others Veil – How Silver Hill Treasures Came to Be

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“Let every knee bend before Thee, O greatness of my God,
so supremely humbled in the Sacred Host. May every heart love Thee,
every spirit adore Thee and every will be subject to Thee!”
— St. Margaret Mary

Happy Tuesday All.

When we started our veiling series, we decided we’d give the Veil Companies the chance to tell their personal veiling stories as well as how they came to start a veiling company. The Holy Spirit is so deeply interwoven into this story, I’m skipping my intro so that you can get right to reading it. What a fantastic story.

Our guest author today is Karen Zenti, Owner and Founder of Silver Hill Treasures. Karen previously shared her veiling story in March.   Here is the story of Silver Hill Treasures…

The Decision

It was January 2010. I had finally decided to go with it, for my birthday. So I tentatively approached my husband – “I’ve been thinking about wearing a veil to Mass.” “Cool. Did you buy one yet?” he said. “Nope”, I replied “any ideas where I can find one?” He had none.

I looked online and didn’t find much. Most of what I saw looked like stiff doilies. So I decided to try my hand at making a veil. How hard could it be, really?

The first decision was pretty easy – what shape? I went with a triangle because it seemed like that was the most common shape. What color? Black seemed a natural decision – it’s neutral and formal. What lace to use? The fabric store had some laces, but I was too concerned about what the ladies who work there would think about my chapel veil idea, so I just grabbed the one with the smallest flower pattern.

Making the veil itself wasn’t hard, I had extensive sewing experience. The hard part was making it proportionate so that it would lay right on the head. Having had zero experience with veils, I wasn’t sure what size to make it.

Spanish Medallion Black LavenderSo I did what I dreaded most – I called my mom. I expected her to ridicule me for wanting to wear a veil. After all, her generation was the one that did away with veiling. I figured she thought it was antiquated.

I asked if she remembered what size a veil should be. She decided to come over and show me.  So I pulled out the veil I had started to make and she said it was too small. Too small? I didn’t think it needed to hang past your ears! She recommended I look for Spanish and French veils – and went into a long conversation about the different colors, styles of lace, veil shapes…

The 30 Veils

In late January I finally found someone who sold Spanish veils – they were $96 each! So I kept looking and finally found a Spanish lace maker who had veils at reasonable prices. The catch? The minimum order was 30 veils.

I sat in bed that night, thinking that maybe veiling just wasn’t in the cards. But I’d thought about it for over a year, and had finally decided to take the plunge. I said to the Virgin Mary, “I’m sorry, but it doesn’t look like I can do this right now. I can’t find a veil. Thirty veils is ridiculous, it really is.”Spanish Bouquet Black Red

Then a thought came to me – if I couldn’t find a veil, there were probably many other women in the same boat. I couldn’t possibly be the only one thinking about veiling and having trouble finding a veil. But, 30 women? Were there really that many wanting a veil?

On my way home from work the next day, I stopped in at our church. I wanted to sit in silence with Jesus, to clear my mind. As I talked to him about the 30 veils, I felt at peace. I had no idea how I’d pull it off, but somehow knew that’s what I needed to do.

I called my mom again – this time to borrow money to order 30 Spanish veils. We had a good conversation, and at the end she told me she fully supported me!

A New Endeavor

Four weeks later, the Spanish veils arrived! It was then I realized what my mom had said about them. They were gorgeous! No store-bought lace could equate to these, they were a work of art! I picked out a black one and put it on, then tried a beige one. Which to choose? I ended up with black!Black Spanish Bouquet

Now to sell them: eBay was a natural choice since I was still testing the waters. To my surprise, I sold out quickly and placed another Spanish veil order. Meanwhile, I had started making hand-crafted veils using the Spanish veils as a pattern. Again to my surprise, those sold very well too!

As the veil business picked up, my full-time job was becoming less suited to me. In July 2010, the subsidiary I worked for was closed down and I was left with trying to find a position with one of the sister companies, none of which had ever impressed me. I ended up making a lateral move, but struggled for the next 2 years trying to strike a work-life balance – something that had never been an issue before.

Meanwhile, in 2011, my veil business doubled. Then, by the time I was due with our 5th in June 2012, I realized that business in 2012 was again doubling. Crazy, you say? I say it was Our Lady’s plan all along! So rather than return to my job outside the home, we decided that I would stay home and run the veil business full time.Merlot Infinity

It wasn’t a decision we made lightly because many things depended on my outside job: health insurance and disposable income, to name a couple! But we also had our oldest child entering High School, number two starting Middle School, and our third starting Kindergarten – all in the fall of 2012. Add to that a 3-year-old and a newborn baby in daycare and it was simply too crazy a schedule for me to continue working full time.

Yes, I’m Quitting My Job to Sell Veils

Many, many people thought I was crazy for leaving a good job with ample benefits to stay home and sell veils. At least, that’s how they saw it. Me? I saw it as doing God’s will – come what may. Was it daunting? You bet. Was it scary? Absolutely. Am I sorry I ever did it? Not one bit!

Business hasn’t slowed at all – quite the opposite. It’s growing faster every month. Since 2013, Silver Hill Treasures imports French veils too. We started our own website in January 2013: www.silverhilltreasures.com

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Recently I’ve started getting questions about “competition” in the veil field. I chuckle, because I honestly don’t think competition is a factor. Sure, there are several others who make and sell veils, but the “market” is in its baby stage. On the practical side, when we look at the number of Catholic women in the US alone (approximately 39 million) it becomes obvious that there is lots of room for growth. Perhaps more importantly, though, is the question: where is the growth coming from?

Why the growth?

It’s an interesting question, really.  Veiling isn’t required any more, yet every day more women are buying their first veil. Over 85% of my sales are to first-time veilers. You know what I think? I think that we live in a time where we’ve lost the sense of the sacred. We are surrounded by apathy towards Jesus and His sacrifice for us. We are threatened by ideologies and religions that attack not only Catholics, but all other Christians too. People around us are “spiritual but not religious”. What does that even mean?

I think that the natural law that is written in our hearts is drawing us toward Jesus. Amid the disorder that threatens our world, our souls are thirsting for Him, and when we discover that He really is present in the Eucharist, we can’t help but want to show reverence and gratitude to Him.

I also think that Our Lady is leading women to Christ like never before – and that they are listening like never before. Very few women make a snap decision to veil; for many, it takes months of prayer and pondering before they even tell someone they are considering veiling. That’s Mary, working from within. Dr. Alice von Hildebrand explains better than I can why this is important:

“The mission of women today is of crucial importance. In some way, they have the key to sanity — the first step toward a conversion. For supernature is based on nature, and unless we go back to a natural soundness, the sublimity of the supernatural message will be lost to most of us.

Why do they have the key? Because their influence on men is enormous when they truly understand their role and mission. Again and again I hear priests say that they owe their vocation to their grandmother or mother.

St. Monica, in collaboration with God, brought back her wayward son to God. St. Bernard’s mother, St. Francis de Sales’ mother — who was only 15 years older than he — and St. John Bosco’s mother were key factors in their spiritual way to holiness.”

So What Now?

This year alone, we’ve added several new colors in the Spanish veils, and mini snap clips to keep them in place. We offer a free pamphlet explaining why women are again veiling, which can be ordered in bulk to share with family, friends, and parishes.

What’s on the horizon? More options in the accessory department, and a mid-level line of veils – an affordable variety, for those who don’t want to spend too much on a first veil – or need a spare to keep in their car or purse – or want to have several styles/colors on hand. We also have several surprises in the works, which we’ll be announcing once we have all the details!

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Karen is a cradle Catholic from Tegucigalpa, Honduras who lives in Des Moines, Iowa with her husband and 5 children.  She has a Business degree in Finance and a minor in French from Iowa State University. She is fluent in English, Spanish, and French – though her preferred language is Spanglish! After 20 years working full time outside the home, Karen is now a stay-home mom who runs a veil company, Silver Hill Treasures. She wears a veil any time she is in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament. You can find her on Facebook,BloggerTwitterPinterest and outside gardening when the weather is nice!